How to Deal with Thoughts of Failure?

Go make mistakes today.

The first response you will get for yourself is FEAR. A sign your ego is at its defense ‘you cannot make mistakes because mistake is humiliating. You cannot fail because failure is humiliating’. Let the thought be. Acknowledge it but do not give energy to it. Do not analyze how far the future mistakes and failures would be. Don’t think further than the first thought.
This can stop the fear of failure from growing as a feeling, where it will let you sail with your unconscious belief that you can never achieve success in your life. If you sail together with these thoughts of failure far from your consciousness and far away from your awareness, you have already failed in reality.

Then make your first step, an opposite step of failure; a successful step. This is a crucial step because to do the opposite of failure is already a success. This success is far greater than the one you imagine would happen in the future because it heals the fear of failure in you in an instant. And because it increases your self-esteem one strength at the time.

Never fear failure because failure and success are equally divided. If you are making a success, you must expect failures. Likewise, if you are making failures, you must expect success. Both successes and failures draw each other closer. When you think of success, your mind draws the thought of failure too. When you think of failure, your mind draws the thought of success for you. It is not the success or failure that brings the fear in you but the conflict you have when these two entities draw each other. So it is important to aware that this is just your mind bring balance for you.

And for the third step, practice surrender. Sometimes thoughts can go wild on making you feel like a failure. Whatever you are thinking in your mind, ALWAYS trust your feeling, intuition, guts, God; that whatever failures you are experiencing, it is happening to MAKE YOU A SUCCESSFUL PERSON.

Now take a deep breath and get ready to make mistakes and face failures. Learn and forgive yourself along the journey. And see what is unfolding for you.

If you are making mistakes

Lessons from A Crow

Crow, a common black bird on this beautiful Earth. The appearance of this bird always misunderstood by many people. Manipulated in the movies, many people tend to believe that whenever crows is nearby, dark forces is nearby too. Whether this is true or otherwise, crows are unique on its own. In the spirituality of Native America, Crows represent justice, spiritual strengths and more. And there is another kind of more.

On one fine morning, when I was reading a book, I’ve got visited by a crow. Her appearance was obvious, near and loud. I put down my book and observe this unique creature. In less than a minute, she has already taught me something beautiful about life.

The Lessons:

1. When the world mentally labeled that white is clean and pure, whereas black is dirty and dark, crows don’t care about these labels. They simply didn’t get identify with it. They accept the way they are and live the life by being themselves.

Lesson: Acceptance and detachment. When you accept yourself and detach from labels made by the mind, you get to connect with your true-self. And it is easier to be your true self without any mind label identification.

2. Have you seen any crow hidden behind the tree because she’s not as colorful as other birds? Have you seen any crow that feels so shy and hide her loud voice? Crows are one of the birds that appear in front of you with high self-esteem. One of the evidence is their appearance rather louder than silence. What are they telling us about self-esteem?

Lesson: Be loud and be bold about yourselves. Even if you feel that you are lack compare to others, even if you feel less pretty compare to others and many more of lack, accept it because it will help you increase your self-esteem.

Conclusion:

The Crow, a black bird with a high self-esteem

Accept whoever you are because acceptance is beautiful life in making. Never hide yourself. Face the world with all the self-esteem you have. Throughout the time, it will increase and become stronger inside you.

And always be proud of yourself! Expose your talents, your skills, your voice, your opinions, your knowledge about life from the world. Do it with kindness and love. What the world need right now is people who can fit the puzzle of life correctly by being themselves.

Remember this; when the crows not trying to be others, it gives a sense of beauty in the world of birds. The world has colorful birds and also just one color bird; the black crow. This is not sacrifice. This is the acceptance of being. And YOU are unique. We are unique. Only by being yourself, you are helping others being theirs. All of it will fit the puzzle of life beautifully.

Photo Credit: Linus Galleries.
Artist: Cassie Walker.